Read This If You’re Prioritizing Your Career Over A Romantic Relationship

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Everyone knows that you’re a hard worker. The one who doesn’t bend even when life challenges you. The one who has never-ending goals, who has bigger dreams, who has so much potential.

You don’t stop until you get what you want — determination runs in your blood. You always find a way to improve and to change. You always make sure that you stay on top of your game. And even when you commit a mistake, whether big or small, you own it, and give your all to correct it.

It’s easy for you to convince people that you can be good in everything that you do. But you know that’s not entirely true. Because if there’s one thing that is lacking in your life — it’s romantic relationship. And no matter how hard you try to be successful in it, you always end up with a broken heart; you always end up disappointed, and torn.

So you promise to yourself not to waste your time chasing people who don’t want to be part of your life for a long time. You promise to yourself to devote all your attention to something you’re normally great at, something you’re absolutely positive will become fruitful one day, something that will give you a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. You promise to yourself to keep your head down and continue working hard until all your efforts will pay off.

You’re prioritizing your job or your passion or your career over a potential relationship. You’re choosing to build yourself first before entertaining someone who wants to be more than friends with you — and there’s nothing to regret about that. Your prime years are the perfect time for you to figure out the things that you’re good at, to develop, to hone your craft. And deciding to fully sacrifice your time for your growth could be the best decision that you’re going to make.

Of course there’s a chance that you won’t be able to find the right one for you. Maybe you’ll eventually become comfortable about the idea of settling down on your own. Maybe you’ll spend your old days feeling lonely for not having someone special by your side. Maybe you’ll get so used in loving yourself that your heart won’t be able to recognize what romantic love is anymore.

But deep down, you know that you’ll never get tired of sticking up with your visions in life. Relationships may come and go, but your skills and talents will stay with you no matter what. Your skills and talents will never let you down, will never betray you, will never hurt you.

Love will come in your way when it’s meant to become part of your story. It’s pointless to rush and invest so much of your effort in finding a romantic partner. Because there is so much more you can do with your time rather than fall in love and fall out of love. There are so many more important things in this world other than romantic relationships. 

Your happiness isn’t dependable on a significant other alone. It’s okay to do what only feels right for you in this moment, regardless of what the society has to say. You’re not selfish for choosing your ambitions before somebody else. You’re not naive for caring too much about the person that you will become.

Someday, you will not recall the nights that you felt lonely. You will not look back and think of all the times that you held your tongue and didn’t confess your feelings towards someone. But you will remember the days when you realized how incredible it was to be successful, to have your sacrifices pay-off, to make yourself proud. And that feeling of being on top of the world — celebrating and winning — is, for sure, what will always stay in your memory, until the end of time. TC mark

Angelo Caerlang

Angelo Caerlang is the author of Sparks in Broken Lights.

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