If Your Post-Grad Life Sucks, Guess What? It’s Not The End Of The World

Ben Duchac

When I graduated college, I thought I had my life figured out. I had a five year game plan all set up in my mind because I was that confident in my future. I moved out of my country to work abroad with no experience on my resume, because I had so much faith in myself, in my skills, and in my abilities.

In one stroke of luck, I got my first job. And in that part of my life, I realized that if you believe in yourself and have trust in yourself, the universe opens a lot of doors for you. I have learned that there is no mountain high enough to climb, if you work hard to reach the top of it.

But then I reached a turning point, during my first year of my post-grad life, when suddenly my brain was filled with so many doubts. I felt unhappy and purposeless with the job that I had, with the people that surrounded me, and with the environment I was working in. I was petrified to admit to myself that maybe I had it all wrong. Maybe my curated, step-by-step plans for my future weren’t meant to work.

For a brief period of time, I got lost and confused about everything: about life, about the world. I realized that I was just like everyone else in my generation. Sometimes, I had moments when I knew exactly where I’d be heading. But sometimes, I had no idea what I really wanted to do with my life.

Slowly by slowly, I have accepted the truth that I’m not supposed to have my life sorted out at this age. I have accepted that it’s perfectly okay not to always make the right moves, or choose the right decisions.

And if there’s something that I have learned in a hard way, it’s this: You don’t have to feel stuck in the wrong job, in the wrong place, or with the wrong people.

You can always leave. You can always change. You can always chase what you are truly passionate about.

And walking a different path doesn’t make you a bad person. Having a terrible year after your college graduation doesn’t mean you’re going to have terrible years for the rest of your life.

You are young. It is never the end of the world for you just because you’ve made a bad decision or you’ve chosen the wrong option. You are only starting to have a taste of what it feels like to live in the real world. And it’s okay to mess up once in a while.

It’s okay to feel scared by the what-ifs that haunt you in the middle of the night. It’s normal to cry when you heart gets broken. It’s not a sign of weakness to feel defeated during the times that quitting seems to be your only option. It’s not wrong to allow your feelings and emotions affect your life decisions.

You might not realize this now, but the things that bring you down and hurt you the most are the ones that are going to help you become successful one day. Your heartaches and failures give you the extra push to prove your worth to the world, and to anyone.

Life has an insane way of bringing you to the place and situation where your heart wants you to be.

And you just have to trust, have faith, and wait. TC mark

Angelo Caerlang

Angelo Caerlang is the author of Sparks in Broken Lights.

Seeds Planted In Concrete

This poetry collection by Bianca Sparacino is an assembly of words that celebrates the resilience of the human heart through stages of hurting, feeling, healing and loving.

“Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself.”

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