7 Real Ways To Make Your Long-Distance Relationship Last (Whoever Told You It’s Easy Is Lying)

Drew Coffman

At some point, many people embark on some kind of long-distance relationship and more often than not, these relationships fail. Let’s be honest, whoever told you that being in a long-distance relationship is easy was lying.

Here are some hacks to make your relationship work even at a distance. (Apparently, love isn’t all you need)

Communication is the key

Have conversations constantly but avoid being overly possessive and clingy. Ask how the other one is doing and keep in touch throughout the day (or days depending on how often you talk to each other). It is important not to let your partner feel neglected and lonely.

A healthy communication can go a long way especially when both of you are going through a rough patch. However, this doesn’t mean that you are entitled to bug your partner off every 5 minutes. Communicate well and understand that the other person isn’t always available the same time as you are.

Keep yourself busy

I cannot stress this one enough. Find a way to enjoy your “me time”. Relationships are easier when you have a vibrant life outside them. Having time for yourself periodically is actually healthy. Don’t just wait for your partner’s text or phone call 24/7. Do something productive – take advantage of the distance and engage in something that will enhance yourself or your craft.

Designate virtual dates

When you are dealing with conflicting schedules, it is easy to assume that you aren’t a priority. Share something together even when you’re apart – it can be a walk, grocery shopping or even a movie. Distance doesn’t always have equate to absence.

Go the extra mile (literally or not)

Keep the fire burning! If you have time to spare, think of ways to make your relationship more exciting. It doesn’t necessarily have to be grand like a surprise visit because we all know that it doesn’t come cheap – handwritten letters or even just simple notes can make someone’s day! The same goes with understanding or having patience, there’s no harm in going the extra mile.

Don’t keep score

Keeping score may be appropriate in games but it doesn’t do much in relationships. Do something out of pure love but don’t expect your partner to top what you did. Acknowledge each other’s differences and understand that both of you are part of the team. At the end of the day, keeping score will just leave you unsatisfied.

Learn how to trust

This may be the hardest task to do but learn how to trust yourself and your partner. The lack of trust leads to accusations, worry and unnecessary issues. These issues can make or break your relationship. Trust may seem like blind faith and sound like a one-syllable laugh but trust me when I say that it is one of the foundations of any relationship.

Set a goal

Couples are scientifically proven to be happier if distance is understood to be temporary. It is important to have a finish line in sight. Always have something to look forward to together. Have a timeline and an end date.

And voila! Before you know it, you’re already together! Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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