14 Honest Pieces Of Advice Every 20-Something Needs To Hear Right Now

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Talk is cheap. Actions over words. If you’re constantly making verbal excuses for lack of action, you will find yourself in trouble.

2.

Sometimes saying nothing is more suggestive than saying anything at all. Having the last word isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Silence is golden. And it speaks drastic measures far beyond words ever will.

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Sometimes things just end. And without any reasoning or forewarning as to why. Things won’t always work out the way you want them to. And the more you dwell on the “could haves” the more you’re missing out on real life.

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You won’t be everyone’s cup of tea. But, who cares? I’d rather be someone’s shot of whiskey than anyone’s cup of tea any day.

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Hurting is inevitable. You will get hurt and you will hurt other people. It’s just another part of life. And sometimes we need to hurt in order to heal.

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If somebody is continually treating you poorly, When you continue to allow these toxic people hold a spot in your life, you’re enabling them to continue to hurt you.

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Sometimes people simply do not have the capacity to love you the way you need to be loved. It may seem unfair, but no one is to blame for this. You are still lovable when someone is incapable loving you themselves.

8.

Being a heartbreaker won’t prevent you from getting your heart broken. The two actually go hand in hand…..

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You absolutely do not have all the answers. You don’t have every little thing figured out. You’re going to make mistakes and open the wrong doors, and that’s okay.

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If he isn’t texting you back, it’s because he doesn’t want to talk to you. There are no exceptions or excuses for it. If a guy is truly interested in pursuing you, you’ll know. You won’t need to constantly question their motives or interest. It will be known, no questions asked.

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Nobody wants to hear you complain about the same things over and over again. Sometimes you complain without even realizing it. Admit it. It’s almost like word vomit. No one wants to hear about the 10-15 lbs you’ve gained, so do something to change it, or keep quiet about it.

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You are entitled to absolutely nothing. Life won’t give handouts or freebies. It’s true when they say “nothing in life worth having comes easy.” You can’t finagle your way all the way to the top without scraping against the bottom first.

13.

Stop feeling so damn sorry for yourself. The “poor me” attitude will get you nowhere, fast. Blaming others for your problems won’t fix them, so quit waiting for someone else to give you the solution.

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Control is only a pipe dream, so don’t freak out when you lose it. Life will take its own course sometimes and most of those are beyond your power. TC mark

Andrea Davis

Blogger, writer, adventurer.

This is me letting you go

If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.

At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away.

We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

“Everyone could use a book like this at some point in their life.” – Heather

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