Improving Your Life Is An Act Of Self-Love

“Start by doing what’s necessary, then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” — Saint Francis of Assisi

It seems cliché, right?

How many quotes, motivational sources, and uplifting, goal-driven materials do you need to read or hear before you actually get it?

Do this, don’t do that, do more of this, be more of that… Are you really listening, or are you hearing what’s being translated to you? There is an unimaginable world out there, yet we are stuck in our little heads—a world of our own, so to speak.

“I am capable”, “I am driven”, “I can”, “I will”, but how?

Well, think of psychology as an act of self-love. It’s not rocket science. It’s educational, but it’s also action-oriented. When you get up in the morning, or with regards to any instance you may find yourself in at any time of the day, you can either tell yourself, “Hey, I’m going to have a remarkable day, the world is totally for me, and I am in control.” Or, you could do what most people on average do, you can approach the day in the wrong way.

Nobody can take control of your life except for you, and although this concept seems incredibly simple, it’s not. There’s a lot of work involved, the key is simply to start. If you can start, you’re already halfway there. Now, of course, you should have some sort of direction. You can’t mindlessly decide that you’re going to conquer all the psychological challenges and habits that continue to transcend into every part of your daily life, as well as the quality thereof. However, you can plan your success and mold your response to life when it does happen. Not an organized person? That’s not a problem. When you simply tell yourself that you’re not only going to win the day but actually believe that you are capable of doing so—when you are mentally action-oriented—the world is your oyster.

A little bit of self-love a day goes a long way because when you take the time to love and acknowledge yourself for all you are, you create a space for development. That’s when you grow, and my, oh my, is it bliss when you do.

You’re uncertain about life, aren’t you? Aren’t most of us confused about what to do?

When somebody passes away, most people tend to respond in a negative way. Sure, a life ended, possibly one that meant a lot to you. But how do you deal with it? Do you grieve? For how long do you grieve? What if it was your spouse, child, or a parent, and how do you get over something like that, never mind a range of other traumatizing or even heartbreaking experiences?

Stress is an evident part of our being due to working in jobs we hate or barely tolerate, a lack of financial security, growth, acceptance, and generally the health of our personal relationships. Are we coping, are we processing, are we resisting, are we capable of living a life worthwhile successfully?

“We are molded by our past. Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you.” — Jim Carrey

And so it is. Change starts with you. It won’t be easy, nobody said it would be easy.

So start. Recognize that you are in control and act accordingly. Don’t resist living a better, richer, and more fulfilling life. Love yourself, accept where you are, and create your own future. Everything is entirely up to you, no matter at what point you are at in your life—you can take control of it and win the day.

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