I’m tired of women — hell, people in general — being told that we’re too messy if we express our emotions. Yes, we have emotions. That’s what makes us human. Our specific and complex journey in this world is defined by the fact that we can express those feelings verbally.
Some of us are more sensitive to our emotions than others. We need to feel deeply and in turn relate to the rest of the universe in a more intense way. I am one of those people.
I will not apologize for the fact that I experience my feelings in a vibrant way. It is one of my best qualities, and it is an integral part of who I am. If that makes others uncomfortable, all I will say is that I believe that speaks to a discomfort within themselves. Maybe they too have the same emotions but they are not connected to their inner selves. Perhaps they are simply too afraid to express their feelings, and that causes them shame or embarrassment. Rather than get curious about their own inner workings, people tend to attack those whose freedom of expression makes them feel small and threatened. It’s easier.
If someone wants to judge the way that I move through my life, I would encourage that person to find somewhere more important to focus their attention. There are many worthy causes in the world. Choose one.
Do not blame others for the toxicity that lives within you. Nurture yourself, find the wound, and heal it. You are the only one who can help your heart.
For those of you who love deeply, empathize endlessly, and hurt with a rawness that many will never understand: keep on embodying your beautiful selves. You are special beings, bravely pushing forward with your passion in a cruel and unforgiving world. Sometimes it’s a struggle just to exist in a way that is genuine without succumbing to complete exhaustion. I get it. Feeling so much is a burden at times. Nurture your heart without hardening it. Don’t let pain make you into someone you are not.
Be proud of who you are. It’s not an easy journey and you are incredibly brave to keep returning to the root of your truth. Those who do not understand will try and tear you down, but as long as you remain firm in the knowledge of yourself, they cannot and will not succeed.
Don’t be afraid to feel. Don’t let anyone else tell you that the way you process emotions is too much. That is not your problem. If they don’t like it, they can take their issues elsewhere. Know that you are wonderful exactly as you are.