Going through a breakup is never an easy process, it can feel as if the world has stopped spinning and everything around you is crashing down. What you need to know though, is that it’s perfectly okay to feel like that.
It’s okay to feel hurt and lost and even a little scared, but you’re not going to feel like that forever and it does get better.
Breakups need mending and time, but most importantly, they need overcoming with acceptance.
Going through a breakup can be messy and can get the best of us, but only if we choose to let it. We all have the power to choose how we want to react to the process and whether or not we want to curl up and wait for things to “get better” or take the needed time and steps to heal.
Choose your sanity over your pride, choose your healing over your anger and choose the silver lining over the thunder clouds. Choose all those things and choose them with assertiveness. No one can make this decision for you, only you.
When you shift your mindset and know that you are strong enough to choose to let go of what was once, and understand that the relationship, be it platonic or romantic has ended for the better, you set yourself free.
Take time to be alone and reflect on yourself and what you want out of life. Take the time you need to ground yourself and have your own life outside of your past relationship. Know that there is comfort in solitude and being alone does not make you lonely.
Relationships can be a beautiful union, and when we can come together and grow with a partner they can bring out the best in us. They can inspire us to be the best versions of ourselves and embrace love and vulnerability.
We must however not allow ourselves to become too dependent on a partner for this growth, as it causes our personal growth to hamper. Be brave enough to grow on your own and contribute to a loving union, instead of being dependent on it.
Time heals, and looking back at it you’ll see that it gets better and that things like breakups have the power to heal us in the long run. They have the power the bring us clarity and a better understanding of what we want in future relationships and what we don’t.
Remember, what you’re going through right now is real, and it hurts, but it won’t hurt forever, and all wounds heal.