Why We Need To Get Over Worrying About Being Good Enough

Chiara Cremaschi
Chiara Cremaschi

Enough, it is a word as harmless as words could be that we use all the time. There is not enough pizza for everyone. One can never have enough coffee in the morning. However once we compare it to ourselves, it has the audacity to patronize our self worth.

In a society governed by the amount of likes on Instagram and how many people swipe you right on Tinder, it is difficult to maintain a positive personal image. The feeling of not being enough often stems from these unrealistic expectations from comparing ones, “behind the scenes” to another’s “highlight”. Millennials are too often caught up in the perception of perfection that their own authenticity is lost. Individuality has simply been lost in the thought that if someone really knew us, they might not like us.

We live in a society where the thought of people being “easily disposable” is glamorized. “Leave if you want, I don’t need you anyway.”

While this attitude may be easy to convey, it is not comforting. No one wants to be the person on the receiving end of this because we need to believe that we are worth the fight.

However, the truth is, that few will admit, is that we are all on defense trying to protect ourselves from getting hurt. It is difficult to be going through a hard time or still trying to figure things out when it seems like everyone else has it all together. As a college student, every detail of our lives seems to be documented through social media, which creates a constant pressure of perfection. We must have the perfect social life, the perfect internship, and the perfect partner. I am personally calling bullshit on the whole thing.

I know for a fact, that the amount of likes I receive does not reflect how much I am loved.

I know that my GPA is not an accurate display of my intelligence. I know that I am so much more than others perception of me, and so are you.

The idea of not being “enough” is a notion that humans create. The people that actually matter know that you are enough. The job that you are meant for, you are already enough for. Life is about the journey of imperfection and finding you, it is not about appearances.

There is a quote that goes, “You are enough not because you did or said or thought or bought or became or created something special. But because you always were.” The notion of not being good enough is toxic and leads to nowhere but self doubt so do not buy into it. Stop trying to change the person you are are to fit someone else’s ideal, be you and own it. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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