10 Steamy Sex Dreams We All Have And What They Say About Your Love Life

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So, about that time you slept with Ryan Gosling …
Confession: I’m always dreaming about BLTs.
But while I’m dreaming about food, it seems the rest of the world is dreaming about flying and sex, according to a new study.

An online survey of 700 people found that the number one thing people dream about (and want to dream about!) is … flying. Well, obviously! Not too far behind, though, were “physical activities like having sex and playing sports.”
We’ve all had a sexy dream, but what do they REALLY mean? Good news, I did the research for you! Behold, 10 sex dreams and what they mean:

1. You’re cheating.

This can mean two things: 1. You’re dealing with some guilt (but not necessarily guilt from cheating), or 2. You’re experiencing some reaffirmation for the passion you have with your partner. According to Dream Moods, if those cheating dreams pop up before your wedding (which is common!), it represents the “newness of your sexual passion.” So, no need to worry there.

2. Your partner is cheating.

There’s a good chance that these dreams mean you’re down in the dumps, feeling neglected or in need of attention in some way. It can also reflect some inner and self-esteem and trust issues.

3. Anal sex.

Not exactly a dream situation, but your butt sex dreams can either mean you’re willing to be obedient and comply easily or that “you harbor concerns about revealing your inner thoughts and emotions to others for fear of experiencing pain.” Because what’s an anal sex reference without some acknowledgment of pain?

4. Sex with a celebrity.

Let’s be real: who HASN’T had a sex dream about Ryan Gosling or Justin Timberlake? Although it’s totally harmless to dream about getting it on with someone you’ll probably never even meet, if you do dream about having sex with a famous person, it can mean that you have an intense desire to be successful and recognized for that success. Basically, you want to be a star, too!

5. Dream orgasm.

Have you ever woken up mid-sex dream only to realize that you were actually having an orgasm? No work, no effort, just a lying there in bed having an orgasm. If not, you’re missing out! But even if you just dream you’re having an orgasm, that’s not too shabby either because it symbolizes “an electrifying conclusion to something.” Yeah, conclusion to a good time. It can also mean that you simply need to get laid or get over whatever sexual hang-ups you might be dealing with.

6. Sex with someone of the same gender.

If you’re straight and dream about sex with someone of the same gender, there are two possible meanings for this: either it means you truly love yourself and have a strong sense of self-acceptance or—the total opposite!—that you have insecurities in your masculinity or femininity.

7. Sex with your boss.

If I had a penny for every time I had a sex dream about one of the many bosses I’ve loathed over the years … what a wealthy gal I’d be! While at the time I thought it was sort of suppressed sexual desire for those particular men, it actually signifies “desires for authority and control,” and a strong sense of empowerment. You want to be the BOSS.

8. Sex with your friend.

Similar to the sex with your boss dream, doing it with your friend doesn’t necessarily mean you want them either. It can just signify the closeness you share, and that tight bond is expressed in the form of … sex. However, if you are attracted to your friend in a sexual manner, sleeping with them in your dream means you’re not ready to express those feelings, so in the meantime you’ll being working it out in your dream bedroom.

9. Sex with your ex.

Simply—and NOT surprisingly—ex sex dreams means you HAVE to let go. If you’re with someone new, but still can’t shake those awkward dreams, you might have reservations about your new relationship or “your current partner possess the same qualities that you had with your ex.” Well, no wonder this type of dream can denote reservations. Who wants to be with someone who was just like the last?

10. Oral sex.

To dream that you’re either getting or giving oral sex, means you’re on the right path—just keep going in that direction. It also signifies your creativity, you artsy fartsy thing, you! But if you’re giving oral sex to YOURSELF in your dream, it can mean you’re yearning to feel satisfied with yourself. I mean, why else would you be THAT flexible in your dream?

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Amanda is a freelance writer for YourTango who divides her time between NYC and Paris She has been published in The Atlantic, Forbes, LearnVest, xoJane, Huffington Post, and many others. Her greatest dream is to win a cheesecake eating contest while holding a baby panda.

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