I’m Going To Keep Sleeping With Guys The First Night I Meet Them

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I’m going to keep sleeping with guys the first night I meet them.

*GASP*

*BUT SHE’S A WOMAN*

To be clear, this isn’t me proclaiming I’m going to sleep with any and every guy I come into contact. But I am going to sleep with guys if I want to.

If that’s what my body is telling me to do, I’m going to do it. I choose to eliminate any and all judgment faced when a girl sleeps with a guy within a threshold of time predetermined by a set of outdated shallow standards.

I want to detonate the negative perception associated with the invisible pressure placed on a girl when she sleeps with a guy judged upon a made-up timeline.

Perhaps it’s a one-night stand or a first date that went better than you imagined. Whatever the case may be, a large majority of women think there is a scientific equation of how long to put off sex in hopes of a potential relationship lasting longer in the future.

One thing I hate about that mindset is that we’re too focused on the maybe of the future than to fully experience and enjoy the now. The other part that nauseates me from the inside out is that the weight of the judgment falls upon the female in almost all, if not every single scenario.

Girls often beat themselves up when they sleep with a guy too soon, especially when the guy doesn’t call. Sex, then silence. Thereafter a self-wallowing spiral follows. What I can’t wrap my mind around is why this burden has never been associated with the male gender. I can’t help but wonder, why?

In a singular scenario where the judgment is placed onto the girl, why is there no judgment placed on the man? Why is there not a single ounce of ruling on the other human in the scenario that mirrored the exact same action as the female being criticized.

It’s a mindset that continues to have power because the sexism that still lives and breathes today gives life to this delusional rationale.

Sure, there are still going to be plenty of men that think it’s important for a girl not to quote on quote sleep around; That if she sleeps with too many men she’s somehow lost value at irreversible levels of depreciation.

But, you don’t want those boys. They are filled with insecurity that can only be temporarily subdued with forced illusions of false superiority.

You want someone that will empower you, all of your wants and desires, both physically and mentally.

Do what you want when you want. If he doesn’t call, he’s not the one for you. Be thankful for the experience, and continue to evolve.

Listen to your body. More importantly, listen to yourself. TC mark 

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