It’s time we release the negative stigma attached to change.
“You’re not the same person you were when I first met you.”
“I barely recognize you.”
“I don’t even know you anymore.”
“I miss the old you.”
How many times have you been on the receiving end of one of these proclamations? How many times have you been throwing out similar statements?
The reality is probably all of us at one point or another. Maybe it was a significant other or maybe it was a friendship. Whatever the relationship may have been, when things often end or take on a new direction, we see it as a negative experience and blame it on change.
The person changed how they treated you, how they spoke to you, or how they felt about you.
The relationship changed at a point in time that felt significantly different than at another.
Unfortunate it as may feel, change is an essential part of our lives in order to evolve and move forward.
The change could be removing someone from your life that no longer was a healthy relationship for you. The change could be someone else moving onto a new environment for a new goal they set for themselves. No matter how negatively or positively perceived, the result is a change in a relationship that doesn’t feel good at first.
But the truth is, change allows us to make better choices and grow within. Change can be really good for us, although it’s not always perceived in that way. Whether it’s you that has changed or someone else has changed, it can be good.
Sometimes we change together and sometimes we need to change apart.
What’s most important is that you keep moving forward and keep nourishing the relationship you have with yourself. That comes with accepting the change in your lives and in those lives around you.
This is the only way you can truly be the best version of yourself and be the best version for others.
So the next time you’re upset that someone has changed, be happy for their change.
Be excited for their change and accepting of what comes next for them. Be supportive and non-judgmental.
You’ll appreciate that same energy the next time there is a change for you.