The excitement of a guy liking a photo on Facebook or Instagram creates a flattering feeling of hope. Especially if you’ve slept with this person. Especially if you like this person. Receiving a disappearing snapchat from someone you’re into can feel like you’re actively talking to this person.
But, you’re not.
Social media has created an outlet for males and females to communicate with a limitless amount of people in a short period of time with a few clicks of a button. You can like 60 photos in about 60 seconds. You can send a single photo of yourself via snapchat to as many people as you want by simply checking their name off.
It may be received as meaningful and personal on one end while the person on the other end just considered you worthy of their distribution list.
You may get excited by the attention but realize, as easy as it was to send you that snapchat or like that photo on your social media account, it was just as easy and accessible for that person to do for multiple other people.
It can be frustrating at times if you’re on the receiving end. Perhaps you aren’t someone communicating with a number of people. For you, it can be easily confused for authentic communication, especially when that guy or girl that disappeared eventually tries to resurface by contacting you via social media. There isn’t a real question; it’s more of just a reminder in case they may need you at some point in the foreseeable future.
In this case, it’s a good idea to take a break from social media. Take a few weeks or a month off from your social media accounts. You don’t need to necessarily deactivate your accounts, but delete all of the social media apps from your phone. Don’t sign in from a computer. Don’t try looking on your friend’s phones either.
Take note of the number of times you go to check your own phone for Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat updates without realizing they aren’t on your phone. See how many times you forget you’re on a social media detox.
When these platforms of fabricated communication are so easily accessible, it can become addictive, habitual, and built into our daily routines.
Without the distraction of constant social media updates, you have the chance to realize who you are actually talking to you. You can clearly see who makes an effort and also who you make an effort for.
I’m not saying all social media is bad. In fact, it can be very beneficial for business as well as people with long distant relationships between friends and family.
But we live in a growing age of technology that has made social media so easily accessible that it has become so excessive to the point of interference with natural communication.
So do it!
Temporarily get rid of your social media. You can do it. Anyone can do it. You will live without social media in your life. You might just learn a thing or two about yourself.