Kill them with kindness.
We have heard it all our lives – from parents, teachers and influencers. Everyone knows the so-called Golden Rule, but not everyone takes it to heart.
This has always been one of my favorite sayings and it resonates with me in a unique way.
I grew up with a mom who has always been an expert at conversing and connecting with strangers. She is the type of person who will exchange numbers with the sales clerk at a store, become buddy-buddy with the tour guide on vacation, and talk life with the barista at Starbucks every morning. The list goes on and on.
I would not say I am shy, but I am definitely not outgoing in these settings. For this reason, I never really understood the purpose of engaging in mindless chats with strangers. However, after I started college, I developed a true appreciation for this – and have started to adopt the habit myself.
I realized that we are often guilty of not being mindful of those around us. My mom’s authentic kindness is unbelievable and we could all learn a thing or two from it.
Authentic kindness is consistent, never situational, and comes from the heart. My mom taught me that some days are more difficult than others, but we should never refrain from engaging with others – even if we just smile.
It is easy to spend every day of our lives consumed by what directly affects us, but spreading kindness can relieve us – at least temporarily – of our own worries and stresses. I think that acting selflessly soothes the mind somehow.
We have the power to affect other peoples’ days, and our actions have the power to affect ours in return.
I know some of you are probably reading this and thinking that this is an unrealistic way to live. Maybe that it does not seem fair to be nice all the time. Maybe that when it feels as though your world is crashing down on you, keeping to yourself is your only solace. We all face adversity in different ways – and we all handle it differently. That’s OK – to live a life of authentic kindness is certainly not for everyone – I did not think it was for me.