If He Cheats On You, Dump His Sorry Ass

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Daniil Kuzelev

Love sucks, right? Yeah, I agree.

Love can be the most breathtaking, beautiful experience while, at the same time, it can be the most destructive, heartbreaking pain you’ll ever go through. And you never know what the outcome will be beforehand. That’s what sucks.

I know what it feels like to be madly, head-over-heels in love with someone. It’s the best feeling in the world. That feeling of having your best friend by your side, that ride or die, maybe the one who you could even call your soulmate.

But I also know what it feels like to lose that person within the blink of an eye. One second, you’re engulfed with euphoria. And the next, your whole world is turned upside down. The person who told you he loved you and wanted to marry you, to have kids with you, who would never hurt you because he promised he wouldn’t, who you thought you couldn’t dare live without, who you loved with every inch of your body, is gone. Just like that.

Because what else can you do when your soulmate, the person you live with and who have been with for years, suddenly cheats on you with your best friend? Who tries to get with his best friend’s girlfriend? Who sleeps with his boss behind your back within a matter of a few months’ time?

Well, I’ll tell you what I did. I dumped his ass and moved out immediately with him still begging on his knees for me to stay. But that doesn’t mean it was what I wanted. I felt hollow inside, like a part of me was missing, and it physically hurt.

I cried every single day for three months straight, completely miserable and heartbroken, wondering how I will ever move on. I wanted to die. And now, I am watching my ex-boyfriend start a new life with his now pregnant boss who’s due in a few months.

I was replaced within a matter of seconds.

So, what now? I stood up, I looked around. I asked myself, ”What does him treating me badly have anything to do with my self-worth?

Nothing. So here I am.

I am working on bettering myself. I was recently promoted at my job. I am registered for school after taking the last two years off. I am focusing on self-growth and setting up my future for success. It makes me feel good to have the power over my own happiness. Mindset over everything. That is the best advice I can give to anyone who is struggling through heartbreak.

Because you know what I’ve learned from all of this? Success is the best revenge. So to my ex-boyfriend, when you look far, far up, and you see me on top, I will flip that middle finger and ask you this:

Are you bothered by the choices you’ve made? ‘Cause I’m not. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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