Love is gut wrenching. Love is pain. Love is scary. It’s completely terrifying and I’m not going to stand here and convince you it’s not. Because it is.
Love is losing yourself completely to another person and trusting they’re not going to walk away. Love is telling someone that they are the one for you and them feeling the same way. Love is knowing that no matter what happens, that you’ve got each other’s backs.
We’ve all loved the wrong person. In loving the wrong person, we’ve found out the reasons why love is such a petrifying act. Because when you love the wrong person the inevitable happens- heartbreak. And fuck heartbreak is the worst. When we lose friendships, they seem to just fade out whereas when we break up with someone, we’re supposed to instantly just forget them. We’re just supposed to just cut this person who was once so fucking important out without a second thought. We’re supposed to pick up our pile of broken pieces and try to glue them back together by ourselves.
I know you’re tired of giving your all to someone who doesn’t reciprocate your same feelings. I know you’re tired of the games. I know you’re tired of the dating apps. I know you’re just tired of letting someone in, only for them to go and leave you completely alone again.
So, I understand exactly why you’re sitting there and thinking love is scary.
We don’t fall in love with someone when it’s easy. Everyone can fall in love with someone when it’s easy. We fall in love in the hard times. We fall in love with someone when they’re at their worst and we want to stay anyways. We fall in love with someone when something bad has just destroyed their world and we want to be the one they lean on to get through it. We fall in love with someone in the dark, in the grit and in the pain.
Loving someone when it’s easy isn’t scary at all; loving someone when it’s hard is.
But love is worth it. I know I just told you all of the reasons why love is scary. I know I just told you that love is work and that there are many, many reasons why you shouldn’t fall in love but it’s worth it.
There’s only one thing to do when it comes to love; stay. Stay in the hard times. Stay in the easy times. Stay with the person you love because staying will always be the best outcome. Stay when it’s scary because even though it’s completely frightening, it will be worth it. Love is always worth it.
Don’t give up on something that when it does come into your life makes you feel so alive. Loving someone is an act that you should never regret no matter how it ends up. You deserve know what it’s like to fall in love and even better, you deserve to feel loved.
So, it’s OK to be scared of love, but one day you’re going to meet someone who makes all of the fears worth it. My hope for you is that you don’t let the fear hold you back from something completely magical.