You get attached so easily and when you fall, you fall hard. You’re willing to give a part of you so effortlessly. It started off as a mere friendly exchange but along the way you fell in love. You fell in love with the way they make you laugh, the way they care about you, and above all the way they make you feel about yourself. Every second is consumed by the thought of them. Talking to them makes everything feel lighter. It is as though they have this magical power over you.
While you’re immersed in the idea of having them, your mind is jolted back to reality where you realized that they are unable to reciprocate the feelings. They might simply not be ready or you’re just not their type to begin with. Their reasons may or may not be valid. But you’d start to dissect the situation and would analyze every single reason.
You’d start to beat yourself up for not being cautious enough that you’d end up falling for someone you can’t have.
But here’s the thing, you don’t get to decide who you fall in love with. If it happens, it happens, no matter how much precaution was taken. Alas, sometimes you do not have the power to change someone’s mind. You cannot force someone to love you just because you have so much love for them.
Remember that they are not obliged to reciprocate your feelings. Because what good is a love if it is forceful to begin with?
While you’re dealing with the sadness, remember not to take out your anger on them because that’s the most selfish thing to do. They probably never had the intention to make you fall for them in the first place. The reality that you’re facing right now actually determines if you really loved them or otherwise. If all you do is lament and blame them for not reciprocating then your love for them was never sincere from the start. You could just possibly be in love with the idea of having them.
Of course it is only human to want to receive the love you give them. But at the end of the day there’s only so much you can do and the rest is not up to you. Please don’t beat yourself up to the point that you’re scared of falling for someone new. Just because someone isn’t able to love you back doesn’t mean someone else won’t.