It’s a Thursday night at 10pm. You get to choose what to Seamless and binge watch on Netflix. No one else is flipping the channel to NFL Red Zone and forcing you to order wings again from the bar around the corner that has a C rating. #treatyoself
2. Taking yourself out on the dates you really want to go on.
Don’t you ever wish you could plan your own dates? Um, well, you can. Take yourself to the dinner, movie, play or concert that you actually want to go to because, guess what? You can! And you won’t have to sit through someone else’s favorite grunge band from the 90’s that’s gotten back together and is playing at Arlene’s Grocery this week. Nor will you have to sit through an awkward movie where you and your date are uncomfortable, trying to figure out if you should be kissing or holding hands. This is your life — don’t waste your time doing things you don’t enjoy. Go to the movies by yourself and order that extra large popcorn.
3. Being there for your friends.
Before my ex and I broke up, I used to spend most of my free time with him and, as a result, was more likely to end up hanging out with his friends than my own friends. I was being a bad friend to my own friends and I hardly even realized it; I was never available to seem them. And I ended up spending time with people who I would never-in-a-million-years choose to be with. Being single means fro-yo catch up sessions whenever, spontaneous karaoke sessions downtown and weekly dinners with the ladies.
4. Figuring out you.
Whenever there are big changes in your life, like graduation, a new job, a move etc., you might wish that you had someone to support you through it, but you’d be surprised how nice it is to figure out on your own. And when you do — be proud that you did! Today, we are all constantly distracted with technology that we often don’t have time to sit and think about these huge steps in our lives. Being single gives you the space to stop and figure out what you really want. It also feels pretty awesome overcoming something on your own without relying on someone else to do it.
5. Happiness in being the third wheel.
As a perpetual third wheel, I find it to be a blast. And no — not in a sexual way, but just in a I-really-enjoy-my-coupled-up-friends kind-of-way. Seeing your friends in happy relationships is awesome, but it doesn’t mean you need to be in one.
6. Going home when you want to and with whomever you want.
Relationships aren’t perfect. In fact, sometimes in relationships you need your own space, a break from your partner. How nice to be single and not have to go home and deal with someone you don’t want to! You can choose to go home by yourself, with that cute guy you just met, or with your girlfriends for a sleepover — whatever you choose, it’s up to you.
Stop complaining. Being single lets you do you. You don’t need a boyfriend — you want to be the person who is comfortable alone, enjoys the company of herself, and actively chooses to be with someone else when the right person comes around at the right time. Don’t settle. There is no rush. Take the time to figure out what you want. You don’t want to end up in a relationship where someone else gets to dictate your life before you’ve even had the chance to figure out what you really want.