How To Make The Right Decision When You’re At A Crossroads Of Fear

 

I stand here today with a pretty important decision to make in my life. The universe has given me clear signs that I am at a crossroads, and straddling the fence is no longer an option. Although we never know for certain where any path will lead us, one of the paths I am currently facing is more known. I’ve journeyed on the path in the past, and in all honestly, this path makes people around me more comfortable and, if I’m honest with myself, more comfortable for me since I don’t have to face the discomfort of others’ judgments. But it is missing the passion I desire, and there will be pieces of me that I would have to compromise, contain, and shove into little boxes with pretty bows.

 

The other path is unknown because I’m creating it as I go, and that’s scary! There are more roots to trip on and branches to get hung up on. This path will require me to let go of safety nets, sit with others’ judgments of me, and continue to do deep personal work. This path is exciting and feels more freeing and in alignment with my spirit. In theory, I am always in favor of the things that set your soul on fire, but that’s a much easier decision when you are not standing right in the fire with the choice to jump out or sit in the flames and hope they don’t swallow you whole.

 

My soul knows the path I intend on taking. It knows where I am called to go. Yet despite all my personal growth work, my faith that the universe has me, and my knowledge that there is a purpose in all that happens to me, I still am human and fear still can creep into my consciousness. As much as my ego would like to pretend that I am just so amazingly enlightened that I don’t fall into fear, the truth is that I strive to live and also write authentically. So here I am—authentic, fearful, and yet still with an internal compass that I’m following.

 

I know I am not alone in having felt this fear, and honestly, if we aren’t a little scared of our lives, then we aren’t living big enough! So what do we do in times like this to push through? How do we move through our fear instead of getting caught in it and having it hold us hostage?

1. Journal or Talk with Someone:

Some people are internal processors, others are external processors, and some (like me) need a bit of both to work through things. When we journal or talk things through, it allows us to hear ourselves and spot the faulty belief systems and stories that we are telling ourselves. We often discover new aspects of ourselves or the situation when we take the time to truly process what is going on in our heads. When journaling, it’s important just to let go, write, and not get caught up in saying the “right” thing or overthinking. If you are more of an external processor, then find someone who isn’t going to try to “fix” things but will give you enough space to hear yourself and even reflect back what they are hearing you say. Just be careful to choose someone who is truly going to be supportive of your process.

2. Meditate:

Whether it be a more open meditation or guided meditation, find a way to really connect with your soul and spirit. Listen for messages from spirit guides, angels, or ascended masters, and also rely on your intuitive knowing. We so often second guess ourselves when our spirits are giving us a clear direction. Taking the time to connect with your true essence will bring a level of peace to the situation. When you are quiet in your divine energy, then there can be no fear, sadness, or ego because we are pure love and light in this place.

3. Breathe:

I know, I know. It’s really simplistic but helpful. Focusing on deep breathing will clear negative energies out of our systems and allow for new oxygen and energy circulation. Sometimes, taking a second to breathe gives us just enough space from our thoughts to move through emotions.

4. Don’t Resist:

Instead of fighting with your fear or other difficult emotions, acknowledge their presence, thank the emotion, determine what its message is, but then allow it to flow through. Easier said than done, but it is important because we are putting too much attention on the feelings if we try to resist. As the saying goes, “Where attention goes, energy flows.”

 

I know the above tools work. I am not going to suggest to my clients or readers that they do something that I am unwilling to do myself, and so I will be relying on these little gems in coming weeks. I have put these tools out there for you to try and practice.

We can’t make our emotions or humanness disappear, but we can find ways to be in a better vibration and have a greater sense of peace deep in our hearts as we move through them.

From one human to another, Namaste!