Kyle Benson

Since we care about them, we try to help minimize their feelings because we know that they are difficult, but sympathizing can be damaging despite positive intentions. Empathy is the willingness to feel with your partner. To understand their inner world.

Agree on timing. Some individuals want to connect the moment they walk into the door. Others need to decompress on their own before they’re ready to interact. When this expectation goes unspoken it can create tension and leave both partners feeling missed by each other.

Couples who last together accept each other “as is” and take responsibility for each other’s care. Baggage and all.

To break the pattern that is causing the emotional roller coaster in the relationship, both partners need to take responsibility of the problem.

What you believe about your relationship determines the relationship you end up with, and some of these common beliefs can be toxic. They lead couples down the wrong path, or worse, convince them that their marriage is hopelessly going to go up in flames.

Trust is built when we are reminded that our partner is there for us. They reach out for us or grab our hand when we reach out for them. We realize our needs matter to our partner. We forget the details about our hurt, and the negative event in the relationship slips from our mind.

Avoidants are recycled back into the dating pool more often, but they don’t date each other because they both want space.

The key to effective communication is to do so inoffensively, instead of putting your partner on the spot in the blame game, encouraging them to be open with you without feeling attacked or blamed.