17 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before Hooking Up

Last month, when you told me that you wanted to hook-up, and that it would lead to “true, effervescent love” (your words) I began to question the soundness of my assertions about love — how should I love someone?

1. What is the most sensible way to love someone?

2. What is the most beautiful way to love someone?

3. What is the quickest way to love someone?

4. What is the saddest way to love someone?

5. What is the kinkiest way to love someone?

6. What is the most engaged way to love someone?

7. What is the most artificial, misleading way to love someone?

8. What is the most anti-social but persuasive way to love someone?

9. What is the rudest way to love someone?

10. What is the most over-the-top way to love someone?

11. Is love more noticeably physical than it is mental?

12. Is love initiated through physicality rather than through powerfully-assembled emotions?

13. How should I consider love?

14. Is love for introverts?

15. Who/what is the right candidate for love?

16. What makes someone the “perfect” candidate for love?

17. What is “true, effervescent love”?

How should a person be? (Sheila Heti).