Read this when your heart is aching and your spirit is broken, when you’re on your knees, depleted and defeated.
Look for these warning signs and spare yourself the suffering—if the guy you’re falling in love with exhibits many of these traits, you should run, not walk, away from him.
Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.
He ties his words around you like a corset, fashioning you into his soulmate. Fast-forwarding intimacy on all levels, he plays the victim, weaving a sad story about betrayal by his previous partner who you will later come to learn is also a victim.
Danish teacher here. A 1st grader came up to me, looked my straight in my eyes and said nothing for ten seconds. Then she spoke, telling me how she wished the “blood red pigeons from the lake would come to take her away.”
If you asked me two months ago, I would have said I was the furthest thing from happy. I was the most miserable I have ever been in my entire 19 year old life. Broken-hearted, self-loathing, empty.