Life is how you make it.
If you’re complaining or are being complained to, it may seem like jealousy, but odds are it’s not.
You need a certain level of self-awareness if you want to avoid the mistakes you’ve made before and not inflict more unnecessary pain and hardship on yourself or on the people you want to date. So it’s important to recognize that there are times when we shouldn’t be dating… at least for a little while.
Have you ever taken a good look around yourself and realized that a good portion of your friend group was either married, engaged, or basically on the verge?
Guys dig chicks who do things in the spur of the moment. I’m just too humdrum for crushes to want anything to do with me, and it’s my fault.
Think about the end goal – do you want to be married and start a family? Are you just looking for someone to have fun with for a while? Figuring this out can help reorient what types of dates you pursue.
Let’s talk about your current Facebook Newsfeed at any given moment in time. Allow me to guess; baby, baby, baby, engagement ring on a well-manicured hand, baby, baby, a slutty girl taking a selfie, someone’s wedding, a cat doing something cute, baby, baby, and another baby?
If you and your friends all follow each other’s advice all the time, you’re going to end up having the same love lives and making the same mistakes time and time again. It’s like asking a frog how to fly.
But, as of this writing, I am still very much single (like no one to text with single) and for the first time in my life, I realized that it’s okay.
I go to restaurants alone. I sit on the steps at Grand Central and look up at the ceiling, the only place in New York where you can see stars.