You are the only person that is in your presence at all times. Think about how much you like yourself when you’re alone. Do you like the person you are? Or are you too hard on yourself?
You relish your independence but then grow to hate it on Sunday afternoons when all your friends are cuddled up on their couches and you’re home alone twiddling your thumbs, thinking “What ifs.”
After listening to hundreds of people complain about their relationships, it occurred to me that many of these complaints could be narrowed down to the five most detrimental traits. See if you practice any of these
Can drag me down.”
I’ve always been the one who’s waits. Waiting for him to notice. Waiting for him to change. Waiting for the stars to align.
The last few years, I have foolishly played into silver-plattered ideas of where, what, how, when, and who a strong independent black woman should be.
I’d momentarily given up hope. I was blind to the good guys and only saw the losers clogging up the streets. It was a sea of cheaters, fakers, liars, and players. I fell into a week of self-pity, cursed my generation, and considered lowering my standards to adjust to the times.
Yesterday I realized that I have like no friends. I put the ‘like’ in there because of course I have some friends. I’m not a complete hermit. However, the majority of my close friends are either more than 2 hours away or in a completely different stage of life than me.
You can be just as happy single as you could be in a relationship!
You need to be alone when you cannot arrive anywhere with your whole heart, because love requires every last piece of it.