The concept of “virginity” is heteronormative.
I had my first girlfriend in 10th grade. We were friends for a while. Because we were so comfortable with one another, I took that as a sign that we should start dating. So, I asked her out, thinking the sexual attraction would come in time.
I had never once questioned my sexuality.
It would have been easier to stay comfortably hidden behind my marriage and to write behind a penname to remove all fear that she’d find out. But that’s not what I wanted.
Our critics accuse us of being too open to change, and, frankly, too unlike them. But their approach has yielded few results, and we’re already at work transforming the world.
My darling daughter, you’re going to suck at something. Like, I’m talking utterly-completely-flat out suck at something. AND THAT’S OKAY.
The problem starts early — and starts young. We need to teach girls to understand their bodies. We need to teach the female body in the same explicit way that we teach the male body.
I do not doubt that Lena Dunham’s sexualization of her younger sister as a toddler was from a place of curiosity and innocence rather than lust and perversion. Her actions, while strange, are not uncommon.
We all lust. And that is the tragic truth.
Who is sex better with? Male or female?