I was done wasting my own time and breaking my own heart. I was done apologizing for having feelings and standards for how to be treated. I was done sabotaging myself and dragging him down with me.
You find yourself in context – and in varying contexts. You find yourself as the scenery shifts and you get to see how much of you was based on the setting.
Maybe you don’t see it right now. I know it definitely doesn’t feel like it but you are. There is someone who loves you and wants you to be OK.
Loving ourselves is having a deep appreciation for who we are.
“But you are going to make some man the luckiest, happiest man in the world someday.” I didn’t believe it.
I AM ALLOWED TO CARE WHAT I LOOK LIKE.
Are you ready to let go of past hurts so you can move on with your life?
Someone who can say it’s okay to be afraid, tired and even lazy, take a break, do nothing sometimes. Someone who will know how to celebrate moments of success, not just pushing right away “do more, better, faster.”
If you are really struggling, here are some ways you can make this experience profoundly beneficial, allowing you to grow from it instead of falling apart.
It takes strength and courage to take a step back and remind ourselves: Other people’s reactions are not about us, they are about them.