There are periods when we’re consistently impatient, judgmental, sad, angry, etc. and we can choose to dissociate with these past versions of us through the practicing and touting of our shame, but let’s ask ourselves this simple question: where would you be without him or her?
The point is, you can’t fake a deep life. You get what you give. If you cultivate the surface, you’ll end up with only the surface of things. You can’t expect to give a little and receive a lot in return.
I’m not saying it only matters how you feel about yourself, but learning to accept and really, to love yourself for who you are makes it easier to accept others for how they look, how they feel, and who they are.
We look at other people and we see them through a lens whose perception is dictated by factors like our upbringing, our social status, the stereotypes that have been etched into our brains by our parents and the media over the course of our lives.
Life’s not a race. Love’s not a race. Stop competing.
1. Remember That Your Friends Aren’t Doing Well Either.
We are all people. We all have been happy. We all have been sad. We all have felt love.
They’re perfect. I have shitty skin and frizzy hair, so you know what? I’m gonna brag about them.
I love my perfect boobs. I adore my pink lipstick.
We need to treat ourselves with the respect, admiration and pride we would with any other best friend: if someone was putting them down, we’d stand up for them. If someone was hurting them, we’d pretty much kick their ass. If good things were coming their way, we’d jump up and down with excitement, proud of what they’ve accomplished.