“I’m bringing booty back. Go ahead and tell them skinny bitches that.”
I have figured out the magic potion that can make anyone good at being single.
You start finding real love, not the love designed for the person you’re pretending to be.
It is a struggle that I have still not ever found the proper words to explain, the way it feels to walk around with skin covering a black hole inside.
In the last year, I changed that. I decided to love myself. I came back swinging. And so many beautiful, brilliant things in my life occurred quickly after.
“A lack of intimacy is not distance from someone else, it is disregard for yourself.”
There are periods when we’re consistently impatient, judgmental, sad, angry, etc. and we can choose to dissociate with these past versions of us through the practicing and touting of our shame, but let’s ask ourselves this simple question: where would you be without him or her?
The point is, you can’t fake a deep life. You get what you give. If you cultivate the surface, you’ll end up with only the surface of things. You can’t expect to give a little and receive a lot in return.
I’m not saying it only matters how you feel about yourself, but learning to accept and really, to love yourself for who you are makes it easier to accept others for how they look, how they feel, and who they are.
We look at other people and we see them through a lens whose perception is dictated by factors like our upbringing, our social status, the stereotypes that have been etched into our brains by our parents and the media over the course of our lives.