In between pressing his lips against my skin, he says, “Not everyone gets you like I do,” but this time, it doesn’t really feel like romance. It feels a bit like a threat. My stomach tightens and I count back all the times he’s told me to relax.

However, ask me if I think the body positive movement is helpful to improving women’s self-esteem and I’ll tell you that the answer is, well, no. I don’t think women should hate their bodies, but I don’t think the answer lies necessarily in loving them, either.