I made the choice, on a whim, to take myself out to dinner.
When you step out of the space you’ve been in day after day, you get out of the “mental blocks” too. The knots in your head begin to untangle. Suddenly, you don’t mind rolling down the windows to let in the fresh air on the highway.
Someone asked me what my favorite color was yesterday. I didn’t know. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that I don’t know who I am.
For once, let go of that need to look pretty and present your “best” self. Truth is, you are your best when you are, simply and truthfully, just you.
As much as I do love daydreaming and mindlessly pinning away the details of my dream wedding on Pinterest, there is this notion out there that always leaves me wanting…why does the perfect love story require finding your other half? Why does a person have to complete you?
I first discovered the genius of self-dates at the age of 17.
2. You quit feeling sorry for yourself. Self-pity is toxic, as it morphs us into human repellants- most people do not want to hear about our problems constantly. The more rejections and disappointments we experience, the easier it is to play victim.
I walked on, alone, with my head held high. I smiled when people asked me about you and said that we had simply parted ways. I took your pictures off of my wall and started the process of getting you out of my system. I’m figuring out what parts of me are actually my personality and what parts of me I put on to make you happy.
You’ll learn to rely on yourself and no one else. To negotiate with half-drunk tricycle drivers for a 20-kilometer ride towards the pier at four in the morning.
This is the time when we will identify new passions and values.