As much as I do love daydreaming and mindlessly pinning away the details of my dream wedding on Pinterest, there is this notion out there that always leaves me wanting…why does the perfect love story require finding your other half? Why does a person have to complete you?
I first discovered the genius of self-dates at the age of 17.
2. You quit feeling sorry for yourself. Self-pity is toxic, as it morphs us into human repellants- most people do not want to hear about our problems constantly. The more rejections and disappointments we experience, the easier it is to play victim.
I walked on, alone, with my head held high. I smiled when people asked me about you and said that we had simply parted ways. I took your pictures off of my wall and started the process of getting you out of my system. I’m figuring out what parts of me are actually my personality and what parts of me I put on to make you happy.
You’ll learn to rely on yourself and no one else. To negotiate with half-drunk tricycle drivers for a 20-kilometer ride towards the pier at four in the morning.
This is the time when we will identify new passions and values.
Don’t sleep with boys who don’t care about you. Your naked body is for those who love your naked soul.
1. Stop waiting around for someone to give you permission to do what you love.
I have learned so much about myself and others just from going to shows alone. It is a learning experience and I highly recommend you try it.
If someone loves you along the way, good for you, invite me to the wedding so I can embarrass myself on the dance floor.