As an adult woman working with young women, I can see a vicious cycle. The classic “hurt people, hurt people”. As a former “mean girl” and victim of bullying, I know that this is a cycle that has got to end.
Are the glory days all over? At 21 years old? At 25 years old? But how I see it? You can “adult” however you want. You’re young. You’re still free to do whatever you please.
I made the biggest mistake of my life when I saw that line dividing ‘casual’ and ‘falling for you’ and decided to cross it. I saw you and loving you and threw myself into a game where I didn’t know the rules and was ultimately destined to come in last.
I am growing up. Just not by everyone else’s standards.
I want you to remember: Change is hard, but it not a bad thing. College is meant to change you, you are not going to come out the same person.
You’re going to have to fix shit. Yourself. You’re going to be elbow deep in a toilet tank thinking … ‘this is my life now’
I’d decided the pain of indecision would be less than the pain of rejection, and I never dared to put that belief to the test.
Own up to your mistakes so that you can own your successes.
Living a life of worry and nervousness because you are concerned about what others think of you rather than knowing that only you can be in the best position to look after yourself.
Stop letting the inherit need to not rock the boat keep you from getting things off your chest. It’s not whatever; it’s important. You’re not whatever. You’re important.