We accept humiliation. We accept neglect. We accept rejection. We rationalize them. We build our level of acceptance and expectations around them. We lower our own standards with our own hands.
He tells you that your favorite bands suck. That your favorite shows are trash. That your favorite books are boring. He thinks that everything you say is stupid.
Instant gratification is something we all chase. It’s what makes us feel good in the moment, but it’s only instant. It’s not long lasting. It falls apart quickly and it leaves us alone again.
Regardless of whether a woman is self-respecting or not, what the HELL does that have to do with how a guy, or ANYONE for that matter, treats her?
Do not be afraid to get your heart broken. Do it again, and again, and again, if need be. Let it inspire you in new and dangerous ways.
Maybe they weren’t your person, but understand that to them, you were theirs. You hold a place in their heart, a place you didn’t ask for and perhaps not even want. But don’t brush them off.
During dates. He shouldn’t be staring at his lap, checking his phone, while you’re out having dinner. He should be present. He should be observant. He should be paying attention to you.
He assumes that you’ll always be around. If he goes MIA for a few weeks or decides to sleep with another girl? No worries, because you’ll always be there, waiting for him to return.
You don’t deserve to only feel loved and respected on a handful of days, only to have to build yourself back up after he’s torn you down on all the others.