1. Someone who doesn’t give you butterflies.
The thing no one tells you about healing is that saying “it’s over” is relatively painless compared to what comes after. It’s not the giving up that stings, it’s wondering what to do with the life you built around his. And that hurts like hell.
Once you’ve met new people, the whole idea of keeping in touch can fill you with a sense of dread, guilt or fear if you don’t have the right strategies in place.
What if we could take the pressure and expectation out of dating and just look at the experience as a chance to meet someone new, potentially make a new friend and maybe have a little fun in the process?
“It’s all about the confidence to neediness ratio.”
We decided to sit down and ask each other everything you’ve wanted to ask your best friend of the opposite sex… but haven’t. The caveat? We had to answer with complete honesty.
Their presence seems to always linger in your distant memory, in the back of your mind that wishes things could have been different. Your conscious mind convinces you that it all worked out for the best, but you can’t help but wonder.
It’s not their fault. No, really. They are victims of society’s expectations of them.
The need for this hits me so abruptly sometimes that it seems like all that would ever matter ever. It is poignant and crippling, the sudden realization that you do not want to be alone when you were perfectly contented just moments ago.
Have faith in yourself and your niceness. Don’t let them make you believe you are not that nice person.