We romanticize breakups in order to survive. We want the pain and the aching to have meaning, so that it didn’t all happen for nothing. We need a way to wrap our brains around all the heartache. So we think about the movies we’ve seen, the books we’ve read, the sad One Republic songs they play during the montage that follows a breakup scene at the end of a dramatic television episode. And we want to be those people, those characters.
So no, my reason for not getting married right now is not because I’m not ready. It’s because I am content
Before date one, you have to ask yourself a critical question: Will pictures of you and your hypothetical new lover be a hit on Instagram? If the answer is no, how can he possibly be the one?
Heartbreak. It’s an inevitable part of our lives that we can’t seem to run away from. It stings you, it shakes your whole being, and it leaves you reaching for anything that you can hold on to. It is a coming of age marker in your life that can either leave you broken or reborn.
When he made you feel like you were just too emotional and hysterical.
One day you’ll wake up and you won’t miss him. One day you’ll wake up and you won’t wish things were still the same, you won’t wish he never left, you won’t wish you could share your updates with him and you won’t feel like something is missing in your life. One day you’ll wake up feeling complete and happy on your own and you will be okay with his absence.
The guy I’ll end with won’t belong on paper. Because sparks are created on impulse, for no good reason, with no second thought.
I’m really tired of what society decides to label weakness. I’m tired of natural emotions getting mislabeled as something else. I’m tired of seeing people feel like they can’t miss someone past a certain length of time, like they need to snap out of it already.
Validation goes beyond acknowledging someone’s experience. It says your experience is real and it matters. Not only do I see your perspective, but I appreciate it.
Sabrina Alexis helped women around the world understand men and why they act the way they do in the groundbreaking book 10 Things Every Woman Needs To Know About Men and the e-book He’s Not That Complicated.