The truth is, we don’t learn about sex in one fell swoop. Our attitudes, desires, behaviors and responses to sex are often a hodgepodge of multiple influences collaged together over time.
A few years ago, we had a resurgence of the awkward kid. It was suddenly cool to act like you were awkward, to profess how weird you were in certain situations, and to play up those character traits as cute little quirks.
“Lose my number” used to be a thing. Now it’s more like: lose my number, unfriend me, stop following me on Instagram and Twitter, remove me from Snapchat, delete my email address.
They’re a sounding board for every weird thought, embarrassing fear, ambitious goal, freaky dream, and just about every other notion you’ve ever had.
1. The Pity Party is Finally Over
They ask for it too directly.
I’m sorry to say this, but although people have been lead to believe that every person, in some way or form, enjoys the act of showing affection, that idea is incorrect.
Find him in your unwashed sheets. Rationalize leaving them for three more weeks because you’re convinced you can smell him.
I used to envy some of my friends and how easily they entered casual relationships. They didn’t need to know they were in love or immediately envision a future.
You have moved on, but part of them still sticks with you and you cannot explain why you care so much.