Survivors of domestic violence are not stupid, and we are not weak. We have simply tried too hard to love someone who is incapable of loving us back.
Sure, you can comfort this person and teach them what real love is, but you cannot change their mindset.
I remember each time he’d take my picture when I wasn’t looking. I remember him spoiling me with things I sometimes didn’t deserve
“Listen to me and actually CARE about what I have to say. Because I’ll always do the same for you.”
“Just come out and tell me what you are looking for. I appreciate the straightforwardness.”
I’m no longer thrilled by the sign of danger and moments that give me instant gratification but would ultimately ruin me.
“Be observant of my thoughts, feelings and actions. What I don’t say is much louder than what I do say.”
“Take the initiative, but don’t push too hard. Accept that sometimes I need space to be in my own head. “
“You basically just need to stand out in something – be super smart, super nice, super hip, super down to earth, just something that makes me notice you as an individual.”
“My goal is to understand your core, true self and all that comes with it: fears, desires, ambitions, insecurities and passions.”