If you’re having trouble in your relationships as a “Hero,” it’s because you’re attracting people who need help, not who want to be loved.
As soon as someone wants something from him, his terror of losing himself is activated and he automatically resists.
Many people spend their lives re-creating their first familial relationships, often to their own detriment.
“I’m always scared that the reason I fall in love with someone is the reason I’ll fall out of love with them.”
You fix your relationship by conquering uncertainty with a heavy dose of trust, which is the antidote to doubt. Rebuild it from zero if you must, but without it love is just dust.
Stop the lying and deception and answer their questions, no matter how painful they are.
“If my girl ever cheat on me, Ima just loosen all the bolts on her tires. Let’s see if you cheat death.”
When one person is caught lying about even the most innocuous thing and that minor fib inevitably undermines their credibility, at least temporarily.
If you’re prone to self sabotage like I used to be, it’s a downright destructive force. If you’re not quite sure what’s ailing you when it comes to failed after failed relationship, see if you have any of these destructive mindsets.
For all our decent times together, there was one glaring problem. He didn’t really “get” my sense of humor.