“Aristotle,” I would say. “Aristotle,” and I would gently grab onto his arm and lead him out the backdoor exit, pursing my lips through an index finger.
How, alas, does one excavate oneself from such careening thoughts in which truth is temporary, suspect, and often useless?
“The number one fear for women dating online is that they’ll meet a serial killer, and the number one fear for men is that the woman will be fat.”
“That’s always seemed so ridiculous to me, that people want to be around someone because they’re pretty. It’s like picking your breakfast cereals based on color instead of taste.”
Why not make the experience and time we pass in the here and now meaningful, authentic, and productive in your own way? Why not make the choice today to start seeing with the heart rather than your eyes? For when the heart is clear, our eyes are too.
Does thinking about my appearance impact my daily life and my decisions?
It doesn’t even matter how you’re arguing. Even if you’re just asking the other person questions in a very civil way, if underneath that is the thought “they’ll benefit from me saying this,” then it’s time to back off.
How much can I actually do? The answer is much more complicated, but it’s also quite simple: more.
The pleasure principle is the idea that we are fundamentally geared to seek pleasure. However, the pursuit of immediate gratification is often at odds with other important concerns, such as the well-being of others or our own longer-term flourishing. The term asks us to reflect on all the ways in which we sacrifice psychological growth for the sake of momentary satisfaction.
Have faith that you are where you are supposed to be in the present; there is reason for it.