It’s the funny, unexpected twist of parenting. You kids come into our lives. Helpless. Dependent. And along with that we are given a feeling of value and importance because we are needed.
Learn from this situation. Grow from it. You are not your parents, and not all relationships fail.
See your parents through a very limited lens. Think that they are here to teach you, to answer the phone when you have a question about a suspicious mole on your neck or an ache in your belly.
Then, there were those stories that made me want to call up my mother immediately and thank her for never being that insane. To thank her for not embodying the unfavorable stereotypes of the Jewish mother.
They involve the kind of people who do not hold their future daughter/son in-law to superficial standards because the kind of in-laws you need are the kind that recognize a happy and healthy relationship as sufficient.
“I’ve already explained to you how ______ works at least seven times, and if I explain it again part of me is going to die.”
We look at other people and we see them through a lens whose perception is dictated by factors like our upbringing, our social status, the stereotypes that have been etched into our brains by our parents and the media over the course of our lives.
It’s like reading a book with a few pages that have been ripped out from the middle; I can continue reading, but there will always be parts in the later chapters that will leave me scratching my head, trying to guess what I missed in the pages I couldn’t find.
The following 10 tips are my guide to survival.
I hope that the boyf likes what he sees; rough edges and all.