“In all honesty, those catty high school girls that used to exclude you, make fun of you, or just ignore you all together, they were the ones actually preparing you for the real world; because they are the real world.”
While you were a friend of convenience, these people actually mattered to you. You wanted them to be happy.
As an adult woman working with young women, I can see a vicious cycle. The classic “hurt people, hurt people”. As a former “mean girl” and victim of bullying, I know that this is a cycle that has got to end.
I hope that one day you are successful and kind. That you get to where you want to be and that you don’t hurt others in the process. I hope that you do not allow yourself to be a bitter failure that seeks solace in the spiteful things she speaks about others.
You are totally capable of crushing on two people at once. Because the feels…duh.
Have we transformed into everything that we have been taught to not be? Have we become (dare I say it) bullies? Millennial bullies?
She loves to gossip and talk about other people and she loves to hear things about other people as well. Initially he might be entertained by her anecdotes but eventually, he begins to wonder what she is saying behind his back.
Of course, the reasons we love the things we love are incredibly complicated and fall far from common sense…(that’s “Basic” sarcasm). I cannot speak on behalf of all Basics (only most), but here is a simple breakdown of why we could not live without the following
“There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.”
“You can’t sit with us.“ Contrary to what Gretchen Weiners says, there really is room for everyone at the table. And you know what, some of the best tables are the ones where not everyone is wearing pink.