I’m not really sure how to feel at this point, but I do know that I feel stupid, embarrassed, unworthy, insulted, angry, and heartbroken.
We treat each other like property and call it love.
The only advice is to not ignore that this is a last of something in her life and in yours. But from lasts, come new firsts.
You don’t know what it’s like to have spontaneous ideas and then follow them fiercely and independently.
Caretakers and takers come together because both have much to learn with each other. Relationships between takers and caretakers have the necessary juice to stimulate growth in both, provided both people see this charged arena as a great gift.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in this whole process, it’s that we become like the people we spend time with, for better or for worse.
The sublimity of the stars, and my miniscule place in them, did not make me feel small but grateful.
Infidelity generally comes from the same inner emptiness as does alcohol and drug abuse, food addiction, gambling, spending, shopping, and so on. In the case of infidelity, the addiction is to attention, approval or sex – using another person to fill the inner emptiness and take away the inner aloneness.
Of course it’s always “okay” to call it quits if that is what you want. No one can tell you whether or not it’s right for you. But – and this is a big ‘but’ – you might want to do your own healing before ending the relationship.
I’m not the same man who wrote to you two years ago.