Forever isn’t a status you lock down on your eighth date when they answer fifty questions correctly or do thirty-three micro things right.
“I used to think a compromise was just surrendering what you want, but it’s taking someone else’s wants and needs into consideration rather than just your own.”
She’s fiercely loyal. To this day, if someone bad-mouths her mom, ALL HELL WILL BREAK LOOSE. And if she loves you, she’ll have your back too.
It’s OK to fight-all couples fight. It’s about how you “fight.”
“What we thought was ‘love at first sight’ was just puppy love combined with the craving to have someone to spend the rest of our lives with, and we did want that, but time allowed us to realize it wasn’t with each other.”
It doesn’t take much, but a little effort can make a huge difference.
Consuelo’s decided to accept a job teaching in Los Angeles for next fall. She loves the Mexican neighborhoods in L.A. and feels comfortable among Chicanos – and she’s tired of New York. (Aren’t we all?)
An on-again, off-again dynamic does not create an environment where a healthy long term relationship can grow.
There are many, many ways to experience pleasure and connection.
I wish they didn’t make love look so terrifying, so dark and so revolting.