Instead of second guessing what you are doing wrong in your relationship, you might want to make sure you are actually in the wrong first.
They try to make you feel bad for doing what you want.
You never have to compete with anyone – and a healthy partner would never want anyone who they truly love and cherish to feel like they’re competing with anybody anyway.
I love myself. Truly and always, I love myself. And for the first time in a long time, I am putting myself first.
You can’t manipulate someone into wanting you. You can’t manipulate someone into appreciating you even if you’re great — even if you’re the best.
A manipulator is sufficient at placing the blame on anyone else besides themselves. In fact, they’re so good at it that they’ll have you almost certain that you’re the problem.
How could you destroy someone who’s only intention was to love you? How could you treat me the way you do if you love me?
“When you find yourself not telling friends or family about things your SO has done/the way you’re being treated because ‘they wouldn’t understand’ and you don’t want to make your SO look bad.”
Look at their actions and the consistency of their actions and not just focus on what they say or how they say it.
He knows you deserve more and he’s scared you’ll find it so he keeps you hanging on by being the one who cares less because the one who cares less always has the most control. He is manipulating you. He is doing what he can to make you stay, to beg for his attention, to make you feel like you need him.