How could you destroy someone who’s only intention was to love you? How could you treat me the way you do if you love me?
“When you find yourself not telling friends or family about things your SO has done/the way you’re being treated because ‘they wouldn’t understand’ and you don’t want to make your SO look bad.”
Look at their actions and the consistency of their actions and not just focus on what they say or how they say it.
He knows you deserve more and he’s scared you’ll find it so he keeps you hanging on by being the one who cares less because the one who cares less always has the most control. He is manipulating you. He is doing what he can to make you stay, to beg for his attention, to make you feel like you need him.
When you start to identify yourself as someone less than who you are is when you need to walk away. When manipulation becomes more harmful than harmless is when you need to stand up.
Do you often engage in conversations with your narcissist that leave you feeling like you were talking to a brick wall – or worse, maybe leave you feeling like banging your head against a brick wall?
He’ll act like you have no reason to be angry with him. That you don’t have the right. He’ll convince you that you’re being too emotional, that you’re overreacting.
You don’t have to make a huge move, like leaning in for a kiss. But you can get him alone, glance at his lips, and get close. That way, you won’t technically be initiating the kiss, even though you’re pretty much the mastermind behind it all.
Playing the victim. He’ll either say that he’s recently been cheated on and is trying to piece his heart back together, that he’s dealing with family issues, or that he’s busy struggling to make money. There will always be an excuse, and there will never be a way for you to prove he’s bluffing.
They don’t “do” feelings. They claim to be above them, more “evolved” than people who wear their hearts on their sleeve.