Sam Smith has now been given (or “earned” depending on your perspective) a huge platform from which he can sing his songs and spread whatever message he likes. So far he’s chosen not to spread the message that actively fighting for LGBT+ rights is a noble and important thing we should aspire to.
The fallout from this statement was swift, and McGowan has since attempted to apologize. However, I think a large point and a chance to evaluate the LGBTQ movement were sorely missed through all the anger and hurt.
Your daily conversations are probably more gendered than you realize.
Christian emperor Constantius II outlawed same-sex marriage in Rome in 342 AD. He also ordered public executions for same-sex couples.
Gay men are singlehandedly propping up the waxing, gym, and tanning industries. There is a culture of physical perfection that is pervasive among men who sleep with men. With lesbians, looks count for a lot less.
In the summer of 2005, there were no hot dogs in a Super Fresh in suburban Philadelphia that had not been touched by an eighteen-year-old who really liked penises.
“So, who’s the guy/girl in your relationship?”
Yes, I do think it’s better to be out. It’s great to tell a group of my straight friends at a party, “You know what would make this party better? Diversity!” But like, who am I or anyone else to tell someone else, “You need to be out. Trust me, it gets better”?
What do you do when the most homophobic violence comes not from an anonymous blow as you’re walking down the street, but in the house you grew up in and from people who are supposed to love you?
How are you going to have kids? I would totally go gay for you. Oh, I always knew, I could tell you were different. I have a friend who is gay!! I never would have guessed! (You look so normal!)