Your daily conversations are probably more gendered than you realize.
Christian emperor Constantius II outlawed same-sex marriage in Rome in 342 AD. He also ordered public executions for same-sex couples.
Gay men are singlehandedly propping up the waxing, gym, and tanning industries. There is a culture of physical perfection that is pervasive among men who sleep with men. With lesbians, looks count for a lot less.
In the summer of 2005, there were no hot dogs in a Super Fresh in suburban Philadelphia that had not been touched by an eighteen-year-old who really liked penises.
“So, who’s the guy/girl in your relationship?”
Yes, I do think it’s better to be out. It’s great to tell a group of my straight friends at a party, “You know what would make this party better? Diversity!” But like, who am I or anyone else to tell someone else, “You need to be out. Trust me, it gets better”?
What do you do when the most homophobic violence comes not from an anonymous blow as you’re walking down the street, but in the house you grew up in and from people who are supposed to love you?
How are you going to have kids? I would totally go gay for you. Oh, I always knew, I could tell you were different. I have a friend who is gay!! I never would have guessed! (You look so normal!)
People who attack transgender people do so emotionally, verbally, sexually, and physically. And do not deny that. Compared to the standard population which faces a murder rate of about 1 in 1000, the transgender community faces a murder rate of about 1 in 12.
I have to learn my value, and that I deserve to be with someone who equally wants to be with me. These are things I should have discovered years ago, things my 18-year-old sister is better equipped at dealing with due to her many high school romances.