It’s never been more glaringly obvious than it is now that there’s only one of me and four of them, and all of us have different needs in any given day.
Because I’m mom, and I said so.
Your friends without kids will still be your friends but it won’t be exactly the same. This speaks for itself. They will love you always but you can’t day drink (or night drink for that matter) as freely and openly as you once could.
Don’t get me wrong: I am delighted by the prospect of bringing a new life into the world. I expect to make endless compromises as I adjust to the life-changing milestone that is parenthood. But I refuse to become entirely selfless as I embark on this whole motherhood journey.
I work hard, so hard, to raise my children absent the straightjacket of gender stereotypes, but there will inevitably be manifestations of them along the road. And that’s fine. The goal is not to remove gender from the equation altogether, it is to deny it such an overriding role.
You got SUPER territorial if your parent was paying attention to another child.
Do you understand the magnitude of just how crucial doing this job the best way that you can is?
People often ask us what are we going to do when we have children. What a question. How do I even begin to answer this without pretending like I have got all my shit together?
Children are not an obligation or a necessity or a solution. They are beautiful gifts from God or nature or whatever faith you believe in.
I’m imploring people not to recoil from the idea that women may want to contribute to the world in other ways sans making babies.