We care about respect, not popularity. We aren’t necessarily around to be everyone’s friend, but we want to be seen as consistent, fair, and principled. We aren’t going to be crying in the break room about how Karin from accounting doesn’t like us (probably).
I didn’t realize at the time the impact it had on others when I quit. I learned leadership is not a title or a salary. Pushing your opinions down someone’s throat is not leading them.
If you take anything away from hearing about waitressing, take away the knowledge that the people who serve you are just that: people. The server’s apron does not make them immune to emotions, slip-ups, and stress.
I can’t think of a single thing worth doing that doesn’t involve a modicum of hard work. In fact, hard work is actually the only proven method to advance the human condition that has stood the test of time.
I saw my coworkers go home and relax at the end of the day while I drove two hours to play to 12 people in a cafe. Unsurprisingly, trying to have two careers starts to put a strain on the band, the job and relationships.
It will be hard, stressful, scary, and likely annoying. But most things in life that are worth doing are all of these things.
I started chucking objects at the ghostly apparition. I mean, what else was I supposed to do? How was I supposed to defend myself? I threw my notes, my pen, the microphone, a decorative globe, and even my nametag. Everything I threw passed through him as though he was made of smoke.
Let’s exchange—as Jack London put it—the best that is within us. Let’s not let controlling, obnoxious, or petty people determine what is “proper” for us to talk about.
I could have chalked it up to coincidence, but there was a clear pattern here. I had at least ten reports mentioning him. Was he a disgruntled employee trying to get back at the university for firing him? Was it sabotage?
Is this something that we have learned as a society? Are we somehow socially inclined to treat women with less respect than we do men? Or is it simply that we are aware that we are able to treat people in customer service with a lesser degree of respect because their jobs are contingent upon them remaining polite to customers regardless of how rudely the customer treats them?