People think that they can only be grateful for the things they want, but gratitude is something you cultivate.
It’s your one and only duty to do this.
The person that looks me in the mirror didn’t know who or what she was.
Remember that Henry Ford said if he would have asked people what they wanted they would have said faster horses.
When something humiliating happens, it’s a lot easier to deal with if you can just get on board and laugh at yourself. For example:
Is it selfish to silence your opinion because you want to still be in good graces with your friends? Is it selfish to constantly want your friends to be happy with you all the time? I’m not sure, but it definitely sounds that way when I really sit and think about it.
The idea is simple: when we shut ourselves away from the world, the worlds shuts us out too.
When your mind starts to drift away from the task at hand, mindfully come back to the now and focus on your sensations. You can live in your head or you can actually live — the choice is yours.
The next step in the cycle is always relapse, and it always brings comfort and ends all pain. How do you quit something that seems to make everything better?
We need to treat ourselves with the respect, admiration and pride we would with any other best friend: if someone was putting them down, we’d stand up for them. If someone was hurting them, we’d pretty much kick their ass. If good things were coming their way, we’d jump up and down with excitement, proud of what they’ve accomplished.