Whatever you are searching for in a friend or a partner, you need to become that person first. Is it generosity? Is it kindness? Is it intelligence? Is it fearlessness? Whatever it is, work on those qualities within yourself.
The following strategies are intended to shake up your approach, challenging you to work and live at a higher and more conscious level.
I see you in all of the people I have loved before you — in bits of their kindness, their regret, their glimmers of silent forgiveness. I see parts of you in myself, in my own insecurities- things one day I hope you will love.
Think of failure as a battle you lost but a war you could still win.. Think of failure as a complicated friend rather than a vile enemy.
You are allowed to be lost. You’re allowed to have absolutely no idea what you want in life. You’re allowed to not know which path to take to reach your goals, and you’re allowed to walk down a hundred different paths until you find the one that takes you where you need to be.
There were no in-my-head fireworks, like people say there will be. I didn’t walk up to the Admissions Office with my heart skipping a beat. I didn’t have this sudden bubbly feeling in my stomach.
Like a train headed off a cliff, we’re getting closer to this reality everyday. Right now, everything we could want or need is a click away. Bored? Netflix. Hungry? GrubHub. Horny? Redtube.
In any case, I had found myself in a classic cognitive dissonance spiral: every time I predicted something correctly, it only further proved how right I am about everything. But if I was wrong, well, that’s an anomaly; who could have predicted that? I’m right, right?
At some point, it feels like we stop “growing up” and start just…showing up.
If you find yourself defending your past, this article is probably for you.