I don’t cry every night when someone leaves anymore. I stopped wasting tears on people who wouldn’t shed a tear for me, I stopped giving people a free space in my heart when they kicked me out of theirs and I stopped letting people define my worth.
I don’t really look back at you as an honest heartbreak-maybe more like a bruise. It can sting when I think about how things ended so vaguely and open ended.
Stop ignoring social invitations because you’re in a funk and aren’t really feeling up to going out. (Start planning for fun things in advance so that you can’t give a last-minute excuse and back out.)
I don’t ever mean to pull away. It’s never malicious. It isn’t because I hate someone, or that I’ve decided my life is better without them. It’s because my f*cking brain says, “You’re done for a while. Go hibernate, ya weirdo.”
When she tells you he’s just not that into you. Believe her. She’s seen the way he looks at you and the way he acts around you and she knows better. You’re probably infatuated or blinded by how much you like him but she is watching him and looking out for you.
Sometimes being dramatic is a little fun, but I admit I have to control my outbursts more often than I actually attempt to.
She understands how amazing it can feel to fall in love. But having a close friend by her side has helped her to develop a level of self-confidence that allows her to be receptive to love while still shielding her heart from unnecessary hurt.
While in group settings, pay attention to the person who may seem or feel like the odd one out. At the core of our essence is the desire to connect with others and feel like we belong; welcoming someone while you’re already safely on the inside will always remind you how simple but surprisingly significant it can be to feel and make others feel accepted.
“I wasn’t sure at first. But then Nikki called me this morning to tell me she’d seen her, too, and we talked about it, and…” She paused.“And what?” I prompted. “We didn’t… say goodbye.”
If you’re on a tight budget right now, you can’t afford that puppy you keep dreaming about. I’m sorry. Tough love, kid.