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The myth that ‘guy BFF’s have less drama in a friendship’. That’s not true. Guys can get mood swings and jealous and hormonal. They can backbite about with the guys and can ditch you in heartbeat if they wanted too. But the point is, if your friendship is strong enough you’ll be able to withstand all the drama.
She loved you through your “When I lived in Europe” phase.
They know you better than you know yourself. They understand your side of the story and they feel for you when you’re hurt.
Sure, there are multiple sides to every story, but your truth rests on the side of whomever you’re most loyal. It’s their perspective you understand innately. Their version of events you embrace.
Best friends will listen to you whine about all the random things you hate. Boyfriends will pretend to listen to your problems, while in reality their full attention is towards the video game their playing.
Ruminating and dwelling on negative people for any reason still brews up the poison in you and toxifies you.
They constantly point out other men.
If you’re out or share mutual friends and connections, your girls will point out eligible great guys (even though you’re not available!)
People assume because you don’t have a tough exterior, you don’t know how to protect yourself. Wrong. You absolutely do. But your first instinct isn’t to put up walls. Your first instinct is to trust people.
I was terrified to have a best friend for a while, even a close friend. I was fearful that it would be you all over again. I was frightened that the scenario would play and I would be powerless to stop it. I was so afraid of being abandoned, that I refused to let anyone see past my first layer. And I didn’t have any real friends for a while because of that.