“She spent the entire time gossiping and bashing other people. It was clearly coming from a place of deep insecurity and unhappiness. But when I brought it up (as kindly as possible) she flipped a shit and hasn’t spoken to me since. So I guess she broke up with me. I think I’ll be fine.”
Sometimes you can’t fix a problem. I’ve spent maybe at least 10% of my life trying to fix problems that have no solution. A problem should be an arrow, not a stop sign.
Friendship is not a consolation prize. Some people are not going to like you. Attraction is not always mutual.
Make emotional investments in people with qualities you truly give importance to. Search for someone who cares about your heart cries, your not-so-good days and the times you need to tell someone how you feel.
Maybe I don’t stay up till 6 am with those people, talking about our lives and wondering who we’re going to be. Maybe I don’t call them all crying when something’s going wrong. Maybe I don’t get to see them as much as I’d like.
When I think of some of my old friendships, a lot of memories come flooding into my mind. Boy talks, endless sleepovers, and laughter. It makes me happy, but it also makes me tear up. The memories make me sad, because that’s all they are now. Memories.
Don’t talk about how cute he looked in his sweatshirt or that sweet text he sent you. Don’t talk about the weird status he posted or the way that he’s been ignoring you. Don’t even talk about how you’re so done with boys and never want to date again.
Your hair is so big because it’s full of secrets. (Seriously, you know every horrible and intimate detail about everyone.)
“They need to drink when they’re around you.”
1. Don’t ever fake yourself. This, I consider, is the golden rule of friendships. Because to be truly friends with someone, you have to be real to them and with them.