When no one else gets your quirky sense of your humor. You miss how she would pick up on your looks or inside jokes, how she knows when you’re being sarcastic and when you’re lying to strangers, you just miss your bond with her that makes even the simple moments memorable.
I don’t really look back at you as an honest heartbreak-maybe more like a bruise. It can sting when I think about how things ended so vaguely and open ended.
Acts of service: You trust innately in the value of good deeds, knowing in your heart that the spirit of generosity through service is contagious.
Sex and romance can definitely still happen in the context of friendship-first dating, but they are never assumed or expected, and the top priority is always to understand and validate someone’s existing preferences and goals rather than imposing your own goals and expectations upon them.
When she tells you he’s just not that into you. Believe her. She’s seen the way he looks at you and the way he acts around you and she knows better. You’re probably infatuated or blinded by how much you like him but she is watching him and looking out for you.
It sets you free. Even if the answer is not what you wanted, it sets you free from the questions, from the assumptions, from reading too much into things, from holding on to what ifs, from waiting for that text, or that kiss or that moment. It sets you free from your own expectations.
“I wasn’t sure at first. But then Nikki called me this morning to tell me she’d seen her, too, and we talked about it, and…” She paused.“And what?” I prompted. “We didn’t… say goodbye.”
I’m at a place where I can look back at our friendship and be grateful for the time that we did have together and all of the support you provided me during some of my most influential years.
If the person is crazy enough to actually follow you all the way to the bathroom, they can’t make you unlock the stall. If you really want to, you can sit in there completely silent for like four hours
“I’ve got too much going on myself to worry about taking care of another human.”