ENFP: Forgive yourself for leaving when you should have stayed.
It’s time to understand that you had absolutely no say in how long someone stayed in your life, that you couldn’t have loved them any more, that you couldn’t have bent them into someone who understood the core of you.
The truth about forgiveness is that it sets your heart free.
Forgiveness says more about you than any other party involved.
“He was my first kiss, my first love, my first date, my first everything. I honestly thought I was going to marry him. I thought he loved me like I loved him. I was wrong.”
The suffering we both endured—though it may have been different for each of us—is in the past, and I urge you to keep it there. I am not asking you to forget. I am simply asking you to move forward.
I wish you’d tell me that you’re sorry. That you didn’t mean the words you said without thinking, that you’d take them back if you could. That all the pain you’ve caused will heal because you never wanted it to be this way, and that you’re longing for my forgiveness. But I know you won’t.
“They say shame controls every aspect of human behavior. It’s about who we believe we are. But in the end, you cant hide and the body doesn’t lie. The truth is right for the world to see. Our shame can choke us, kill us. It can rot us from the inside, if we decide to let it.” – Meredith Grey
Forgiveness is the only path toward love. Got it. But how do you even start to forgive?
Some of us can’t—won’t—because the feelings we are able to have, we have because we are finally away from the person who breaks us down, from the past which cannot contain our passion and potential and satisfy our hunger.