The suffering we both endured—though it may have been different for each of us—is in the past, and I urge you to keep it there. I am not asking you to forget. I am simply asking you to move forward.
I wish you’d tell me that you’re sorry. That you didn’t mean the words you said without thinking, that you’d take them back if you could. That all the pain you’ve caused will heal because you never wanted it to be this way, and that you’re longing for my forgiveness. But I know you won’t.
“They say shame controls every aspect of human behavior. It’s about who we believe we are. But in the end, you cant hide and the body doesn’t lie. The truth is right for the world to see. Our shame can choke us, kill us. It can rot us from the inside, if we decide to let it.” – Meredith Grey
Forgiveness is the only path toward love. Got it. But how do you even start to forgive?
Some of us can’t—won’t—because the feelings we are able to have, we have because we are finally away from the person who breaks us down, from the past which cannot contain our passion and potential and satisfy our hunger.
This is my life, my triumph, and I’ll be damned if I let you take this from me, too. I will not thank you for what you did to me and for who I am now, after you.
People often forget that life is a compilation of experiences. These experiences make us stronger and teach us about the most important things in life.
Please stop punishing yourself. The longer you keep feeling that it was your fault, the harder it will be for you to move on.
Because forgiveness taught me that I am stronger than any pain inflicted on me, and I always will be.
If you choose to forgive, you’re choosing yourself.