Honestly, it’s toxic as hell to set such a high premium on forgiveness.
Breaking the cycle of an unhappy relationship dynamic requires a radical shift in mindset.
Please know you are not condoning the actions of someone or a situation if you feel they may have caused you suffering, rather you are freeing yourself of holding onto something that happened in the past.
Forgive me if I don’t trust you right away for I’m still mending the broken pieces and trying to forget about the tragedy of all the ones who came before you.
It’s time to forgive yourself for the things you’ve done when you were sad. The things you said when you were angry or the things you did when you were hurt and it’s time to forgive yourself for how you chose to cope with your pain.
You can forgive someone but choose to move on and not let them hurt you anymore. Especially if they have hurt you before. The hard reality is that some people, even the ones we love, can turn out to be toxic to us.
Humans make mistakes and we shouldn’t blame ourselves for being human as long as we try our best to be a better person.
She turned to me and asked, “Have you ever still loved someone who hurt you?”
You forgive them by removing yourself from the situation. The longer you dwell in it, in the heartache, the more it festers.
So let it go, and let it break, let it shatter into pieces on the floor, don’t bend to pick them up, and I’ll do the same