Survivors have to regain the certainty that the reason they experienced such a pathological reaction was because they were so powerful in the first place.
My mom told me, “You know, we all have a metaphorical Ashley somewhere, haunting us and making us feel worthless.”
I don’t give a damn about the time they’ve spent together. Nor about the pure feelings they may harbor for each other. Nor about the big bond their families might have forged, or the mutual friends, or the experiences they’ve shared.
Come up with all the things you daydream about. What have you always wanted to try but never had time for?
They say that everyone can fall in love, but not everyone can stay in it.
Let him know that this is something he needs to work out by himself. The problem is not what you’ve done in the past, but his emotional reaction to it.
The best way to feel like you “won” isn’t trying to top someone else. It’s not caring what they’re up to because you’re so damn busy killing it.
Envying traits someone else has can force you to look at the areas of yourself and your life that you could actually improve on.
Envy. I am a sinner. I envy you and your ability to turn off your emotions.
I can’t say that this exercise is flawless or that it magically cured me of my jealousy. It’s not supposed to. It’s an exercise—a tool to use when envy appears.