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I can expect a “goodnight” text 90% of the time, and there is a 50/50 chance that I receive an “I am alive and safe” text after a night of him bar crawling with his buddies. He is king at skating by with the bare minimal text communication.
I like to be social. And I like to talk to people. But something about the question, “How are you?” is really hard for me. And I hear it all the time, every day.
Focus. Focus. Focus. Click. Click. New focus. Change. Text. Check messages.
This is me breaking the cycle and talking about it.
Until recently, I’ve always questioned the workings of choosing a partner. I
Just as there is a proper etiquette for having a face-to-face verbal discussion, like maintaining appropriate eye-contact and tone of voice, there are rules to follow when texting to communicate in the most effective way possible.
While I am grateful for what they do, I can’t help but also see the humor in the messages I receive.
I was once a boy, now I’m a man. It took me 29 years to get there, but I’ve arrived. It’s more than most men can say.
And perhaps that’s what makes vulnerability so difficult – seeing your state of being, when you remove all the embellishments and pretenses and performances.